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The Concept of Worshipping the “Yoni” 
Open your mind and heart for a moment. I know, Yoni Massage is a delicate topic. There is some weird media coverage and many rumours about it out there. But at the same time, it’s the most powerful tool to discover your body and energy.
Yoni Massage is not only practised by hippies or shady “salons”. It has arrived in the mainstream, and that’s wonderful. It’s a blessing for every woman and couple on this earth who want to get in touch with their body and soul. It can heal traumas, help to work through emotions, deepen the connection in a relationship, and help the receiver in developing deeper orgasms
Yoni (pronounced Yo-nee) means ‘holy temple or space’ in Sanskrit.
Receiving a Yoni massage actually means that this holy temple – your vagina – is being worshipped. Giving one is worshipping your partner’s.
Nowadays it is especially famous for the orgasmic effect that it has on women. But as we will learn, it is capable of much more than activating deep female orgasms.
The 3 Levels of Yoni Massage
1. It Works on the Level of Pleasure
While I wouldn’t say this is the primary, nor the most powerful level of Yoni Massage, I decided to list it first due to its mainstream popularity.
Most women, due to stress in daily life, little exercise, emotional tension and for other physical and psychological reasons, cannot orgasm easily or often have never had an orgasm at all.
Yoni massage offers a way to learn how to orgasm. Or how to increase the existing orgasmic sensation. Step by step the receiver is guided deeper into the pleasure. By learning to let go, and by consistent knocking on the doors to deep orgasms.
It’s important to note here, that by “deeper orgasms” I’m referring primarily to vaginal orgasms. The oh-so-famous clitoral orgasm is considered to be comparably shallow in Tantric environments. Especially when being compared to vaginal orgasms.
Yoni Massage is particularly helpful in going from none or only clitoral orgasms towards vaginal, full-body orgasms and multiple orgasms.
Quite a promise, isn’t it? 🙂
We’ll go into the practical details further down – first let’s look at other levels of this practice.
2. It Works on the Level of Healing
Believe it or not, the female vagina actually stores traumas, emotions and all sorts of things. All our body parts do, according to Somatic Psychology. What makes the Yoni particularly interesting for working on this is its natural potential for sensitivity and pleasure in this connection.
In practice that means the giver will encounter, with the receiver’s feedback, numb areas, painful areas, or otherwise tense spots inside the vagina. Working on those areas, massaging them, can have surprising effects.
It’s not uncommon for women to experience intense emotional release in the form of laughter or crying. Some women report flashbacks into their past – including traumatic and deeply buried situations. Or even back into past lives.
For me personally, the aspect of emotional healing is incredible during Yoni Massage. Being a very emotional person, is also ok to be crying and releasing those stuck emotions. And it’s wonderful!
While I’ve talked mainly about emotional healing so far, the effects of Yoni Massage are also physically beneficial. Especially as all the emotional clearance will have its positive effect on the physical body.
Also the common and unfortunate experience of pain during lovemakingeventually gets less and less over time when practicing Yoni Massage.
Obviously, if there is a severe physical condition in the receiver’s vagina, go to a doctor first!
3. It Works on the Level of Spirit
It’s impossible to not include spirituality in a write-up of Yoni Massage.
After all, Yoni Massage comes from Tantra. And Tantra is a path (not a religion!) for reaching enlightenment. As simple as that. Tantra is not about sex as most people think – sex is just one of many tools.
So when looking specifically at Tantric Yoni Massage, the goal is making another step towards enlightenment.
What is good for every practitioner is that an orgasm in Tantra is considered as a glimpse of enlightenment.
The spiritual effects of this practice are – next to getting a glimpse of enlightenment while biting the pillow – that sexual energies are “spiritualized”.
Yoni Massage has a strong sublimation effect, which means energies are moved from the Sexual Chakra towards higher energy centers. This includes the very common effect of the receiver (often also the giver) feeling very spaced out after a session.
Next to these esoteric effects, one can also claim that the deep connection that will form between the giver and the receiver is also ultimately a spiritual effect. Caused by all that already mentioned the potential of experiencing pleasure together, and going through emotional release.
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Ok, a quick summary: Yoni Massage works on the levels of healing, pleasure, and spirit.
Where Does It Come From?
The Yoni Massage has its roots in the Neo-Tantric community which finds its inspiration in the Tantric tradition.
Tantra is a spiritual path to spiritual awakening. In one of the ancient texts known as the Vigyan Bhairav Tantra, many methods of spiritual awakening are mentioned, and one of them is the meditation of touch:
This text might describe a spiritual potential of touch, and suggest that through ‘caress’ an ever-lasting life or a glimpse of eternal life might be possible.
Every orgasm was described by the Indian Yogis as an opportunity to reach enlightenment – by awakening those orgasmic energies, a portal to spiritual growth might open up.
The massage (which by the way can also be performed with clothes on, as at its core it is mainly an energetic practice) comes in various techniques from different schools of massage, combining elements from yoga, bioenergetics, and sexual therapy. According to the Tantric Massage Association, it was developed in the 1980s by Andro Andreas Rothe, founder of Diamond Lotus Tantra Lounge, the first Tantra Institute in Germany.
Many of Andro’s ideas are taken from the work of Wilhelm Reich, Carl Jung, Carl Rogers and Alexander Lowen. Mantak Chia and Joseph Kramer (who developed the Lingam Massage, the male counterpart) also contributed to the evolution of this practice. Annie Sprinkle further developed the practice of the hands-on Yoni Massage.
What It Is
A Touch Worship Ritual
It is a full body oil massage which includes the female genitals. It’s performed in a sacred and safe environment on a woman or a person with a vagina. The sexual energy (female energy) and presence (masculine energy) are awakened.
A Dedicated Process
It includes around 1-hour full body relaxing warm up (skipping the genitals), 1-hour vaginal massage (meaning the relaxation and activation of the outer lips, inner lips, clitoris, perineal sponge, hymen, G-spot, vaginal canal, cervix, and AFE zones,…)
Ecstatic & Transformative
It’s a liberating ecstatic experience that takes the receiver into another realm of pleasure. It includes the masculine and feminine energies, which means it’s a dance between relaxation and stimulation of the body and energies.
What Yoni Massage Is Not
An Erotic Massage
Erotic massage is only there to deliver pleasure to the receiver, or a “happy ending”. There is nothing wrong with that, but Yoni Massage takes this much further and is way more profound than that.
It helps the receiver to heal their womb and relationship with their Yoni. It helps to overcome negative associations with their sexuality and to connect with their body, to love their body more and to connect with their higher sexual self.
Yoni Massage works on the levels of healing, pleasure, and spirit – while an erotic massage is only dedicated to the pleasure level.
Foreplay
The practice is not meant to be foreplay for a sexual encounter. Some techniques obviously can be adapted and used during foreplay. But a dedicated massage doesn’t involve penetration and has clear roles for the giver and the receiver.
Goal-Oriented
The purpose is not to make a woman orgasm (even though most usually do). It certainly can have intentions, like increasing pleasure, and have healing and/or spiritual effects. However, it is important to approach it with a mindset of openness for whatever is about to happen. Instead of having precise expectations.
Important: This tends to be easier for the receiver… it’s mostly the givers who approach the practice with expectations like “this time I’m gonna give it to her good”. Be aware of this!
A Woo-Woo Hippy Thing
Did you know that since the beginning of the Renaissance doctors have used orgasms as a recipe to cure the following diseases: (attention!) erotic fantasies, nymphomania, melancholia, nervousness, moments of unclarity and even breathing issues, insomnia…
Even though the reasons are a bit politically incorrect, the fact is they knew that orgasms (or sexual energy) have an effect on the body and mind. So it has been part of the mainstream ever since!
What’s in it for the Receiver?
First of all: While the giver can be of any sex, the receiver needs to have a vagina.
So ladies, if you care about your sexuality, the relationship you have towards your body, towards your vagina, this is for you!
As a receiver, you will learn how to fully let go of your body tensions and any limitations that are in the way of expanding your sexual potential. You will learn how to deal with your mind (which might usually be what distracts you, right?).
You will also learn that you can feel your Yoni more consciously, which means that you will understand her anatomy better, learn where your orgasmic zones are. You’ll become way more aligned with your boundaries and by knowing them you will actually know what you need and what you don’t.
This practice is not just great for the receiver but if you practice it with your lover you actually will bond on a beautiful level. Many partners feel super connected and experience a soul touching closeness towards each other during this practice.
What’s in it for the Giver?
Giving a Yoni Massage to your partner or to somebody you feel close to, or to a client, is a true honor. You are the worshipper, you are the one holding this sacred and transformative space for the receiver. You are the one giving (unconditionally, which means you don’t want anything in return). Note: If you did want something back, the receiver would not be able to fully relax in order to go into her transformative space; she would hold back and think about the moment when it was going to be her ’give back’ turn.
The receiver needs to learn to fully let go, and in order to be able to do that, she needs to trust that you have no other intentions, except serving her.
Women love to give and serve, and while they are doing it they forget how to receive. So you really want to make sure they can just relax and trust the process in itself.
You will learn to be more present with your lover. And you will especially learn how to feel her energies and give her what she needs at the moment.
By massaging her full body you’ll get to know her anatomy, including her intimate parts. You’ll learn about the female orgasmic anatomy. Which will teach you the essentials of becoming a skillful lover. You’ll be able to satisfy your partner(s) also at another time during sexual encounters.
What Women Say About Yoni Massage
”The one word that comes to me is ‘profound’.Yes, it was confronting and at the same time a blissful experience. Afterwards till to this moment I can feel the powers of ecstatic bliss that flowed through my body. Especially in the moment of surrender.”– Judith (UK, London)
”The Yoni Massage made me connect with my powers of my Yoni fully. To share this with someone in a safe and open-minded setting was important for me to be able to let go. This is for all women who are ready to find a way back to themselves.”– Lauren (Swiss, Geneva)
”Afterwards I felt pure bliss and quietness. I didn’t wanted to stop lying there in this innocent cosmic blanket and just experience those profound and deeply releasing experience. Magical! I know now that I am an amazing creation, with so much power and that I am able to go deeper into my spiritual realm. The massage took me right into a present moment and removed all clutter from my head.– Kathrin (Germany, Stuttgart)
Getting a Professional Massage
If you want to experience a Yoni Massage given by a professional, that’s of course an option too. In the following parts, I’ll give you an overview of everything you need to know.
What Happens During a Session?
There are many different techniques and various styles of Yoni Massages.
Usually the Yoni Massage takes 2-3 hours. If you receive one in a professional Massage salon you want to make sure that you talk to the person first and get to know them a little bit. Make your decision based on whether you can trust them.
The therapist can be either a man or a woman. Make sure to consider what will help you let go more. Or maybe you don’t mind at all.
The masseuse will perform this practice clothed. They will usually explain to you exactly what will happen and guide you through the sacred process in a safe and open manner.
You will remove your clothes and usually lie down on a massage mat or table. Sometimes the giver will take you into a moment of presence through meditation or relaxation technique.
The next step is a full body oil massage (skipping your genitals for now). This is all about relaxing your body and relaxing your mind from the clutter you don’t need. It might take from 45 minutes – 1.5 hrs. Once the masseuse feels that you are relaxed enough they usually start introducing the Yoni Massage. They’ll guide you step-by-step through it, helping you to relax but at the same time being present with your body sensations.
The masseuse will guide the energies in a way that are beneficial to you. They will activate your sexual energies and guide them to places where you might experience pain and tension. It’s a conscious process of awareness and letting go of emotions.
Note: Things like kissing or penetration with something else than the masseuse’s finger should never happen during a professional massage!
What Does It Cost?
Usually a professional Tantric Massage performed by a trained masseuse costs between $150-300 (depending on the duration).
Where to find the right salon
In many cities Tantric-massage temples have sprung up like wild mushrooms.
Some of the erotic massage parlors write things like: “the Yoni massage is a ritual of receiving sensual sexual energy flowing through the entire body”, or “Tantric massage will give your soul and body erotic bliss of a kind unheard of before, and make you disappear into the abyss of rich emotional experiences”.
That all sounds beautiful but it’s not always easy to find the right Yoni Parlor.
Ideally it should be a studio which is professional, clean – a safe place where you can easily feel relaxed, with friendly people you can connect with.
Most people don’t even think about booking one of these sessions because they can’t find a place that fulfills at least the basic conditions. Or because they are not comfortable about being touched by a stranger.
I can totally understand that.
What are the Rules/Code of Conduct?
As the settings for Yoni Massage can vary, this is unfortunately a bit of a vague area. If you practice with your intimate partner, the question might not be super important at all. If you go to a studio or a private practitioner, it’s crucial to be clear what the boundaries are.
In both scenarios the following applies: Yoni Massage does not include penile penetration.
If you practice with your lover, and the receiver asks for it after a session, and you both feel like it, why not. But it’s not part of the massage itself, as the roles of the giver and the receiver tend to merge.
In a professional surrounding, it is obviously not supposed to be part of the session. A professional massage therapist should be and stay dressed.
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